Coaches are really smart. Some coaches that read this may be my boss one day. So I preface this post with the fact that coaches are really smart. They have to be able to talk to high school kids, college kids, adults, and I think most of us probably talk to ourselves as well. In game situations, they make split second decisions that impact the outcome of a play, a game, a championship, a season, and probably their career. They have to suck up to everyone, but lots of people are trying to suck up to them too. They need to be organized but have the ability to act spontaneously. They also have obligations outside of their sport…maybe a family or something.
When coaches know they are smart, they come up with sayings (or “apothegms”) that they think make a lot of sense. And sometimes, they do make sense. And they are helpful. Some coaching apothegms (whether helpful, true, or otherwise) that I have seen recently or am familiar with are:
- KISS: Keep It Simple Stupid
- No Ceilings
- #PMKI: Pretty Much Killing It
- Win the day
- Make an impact
- Are you all in?
- Give 110%
- Positive Mental Attitude
- When shit hits the fan…unplug the fan.
And the one that I wanted to tell you about today: MAKE TODAY GREAT!
I had a rough couple weeks mentally. I was not feeling well and was just doing what I could manage to survive the day. I maybe managed one outing a day during those hard days, then I would need a long nap and the remainder of the day to decompress. I would open up Twitter often and I would see lots of coaches (sports or life coaches) and others saying, “Make today great!” I am not sure that is right. I may be reading too much into the saying, as I am often guilty of, but some days just are not meant to be great. I decided upon a couple different flaws in this statement:
- Not everyday is supposed to be great. If we had the ability to make today great then we would. Then everyday would be great and great would become average. Then people would say, “Make today perfect.” Well, unless there is some secret to controlling stoplights or other people of which I am unaware, then I think that is impossible.
- Days aren’t always meant to be great. Some days, we are meant to struggle. Some days, we are meant to fail. (TRIGGER WARNING?) Have you ever had a dog? Or what about your grandparents? Have you lost anyone close to you? Remember the day that happened? Honestly, is there anyway that day could have been made great? Say your dog just died and someone tells you to make today great. Really? I would want to punch that person in the face.
- Some days are just about surviving. Maybe you read this and say that I am wrong, and that every day can be about thriving. Every. Day. I don’t buy it. Are you familiar with this book? At the end of the book, Judith Viorst says, “Some days are like that. Even in Australia.”
Mainly, I say this as a word of encouragement to us all. Don’t try to make today great. If you live under the assumption that you are supposed to make everyday great, then you will be extremely disappointed in yourself on those bad days. Do your best today. And don’t let your best be defined by anyone but yourself. If your best today is getting out of bed and going to work, then do it. Maybe your best today is jumping out of bed early, getting to work early, getting everything marked off on your to-do list, and starting on tomorrow’s list a little early. Then do it. Maybe your best today is just to not snap. Then hold on. You can do it. If today turns out to be great, thank God for today. If today turns out to be awful, thank God for today. We can get something from everyday. No day is empty. But not everyday is great either. So make today your best today.