This topic may take a couple posts. List format.
- Life exists outside of my comfort zone.
- There was absolutely nothing comfortable about these last two years, except my bed. That was very comfortable. But do you know something? Life still happened. And it happened fast. And it was good. I took two trips to New Orleans, visited the famous Lambeau Field, went to Las Vegas, shopped at the Mall of America, took a trip to the Shedd Aquarium, saw the results of an ice sculpting competition, and countless other things. How cool! It was very uncomfortable, but very worth it.
- Bad days don’t care where you are.
- Bad days happen. They show up regardless of what is on your schedule for the day, regardless of who is around you, and regardless of where you are. In fact, they like to show up when you’re alone and your support system is noticeably absent. When bad days happen, the best thing you can do is what makes you happy. For me, I would take Ace for a walk, hang out with the minions, or go swing. It doesn’t have to be for very long. Just a half hour to get yourself settled down and ready to get after it. It’s ridiculous to think that you can just keep walking into a brick wall and it will suddenly go away. It’s still going to be there. It’s more realistic to just walk around the thing. It may take you a little time, but it will save you a lot of effort and discouragement.
- There’s a difference between can’t and won’t.
- This is something that it constantly on my mind. I don’t use Asperger’s an excuse, but there are times when it honestly is limiting. You’re ignorant if you believe otherwise. There are things that I don’t want to do and there are sometimes things that I can’t do. An example: I typically won’t go out after the games, but I could, if I wanted to (but I mostly don’t). On the other hand, I would love to never have a fidget in my hand, to never have a chewy or something, but I can’t. Those objects keep me from harming behaviors. I don’t rub my fingers to the point of blisters anymore and there’s no more punching walls. See the difference between the two? One is a matter of desire (that’s won’t) and one is a matter of ability (can’t). Welcome to my life.
- The best medicine may not be a pill.
- This kind of goes back to dealing with bad days. Now, let’s establish something right quick. I get the pills. In fact, I’ve been taking medicine daily for the past several years. And about six months ago, when we changed my medicine, it changed my life. I have found the right meds for me, and it is a great great great thing. But I do more than take my pills everyday. I take walks, I play with my dog, I take naps, I play piano, I talk to my support system. My best medicine, honestly, is Ace. What’s your best medicine? I think you have to know that answer to be the best you.
- An adventure is something you get caught in the middle of and wish it was over.
- This is something my aunt told me at some point in the last two years. Honestly, there were so many days that I just wanted this to be over. I couldn’t stand being so far away from my family. And the winters…unbearable. But here I am, two years later. And do you know what I’m doing? Packing for my next adventure…even further from home than Wisconsin. Seattle here I come.
I’ll leave the list here for this week and update you on my next step. I have accepted a basketball ops internship with the WNBA’s Seattle Storm for the upcoming WNBA season. I will be in Seattle by May 1 for training camp then stay there for the remainder of the season. It is my hope that this internship will give me the experience and training I need to become a video coordinator. I believe that the first class staff and organization in Seattle will provide what I need while I provide them a service of my own.
Next up…more of what I learned!